'PACK YOUR BACKS' AND GET TO MOVE ON.

They say it is hard to move on after a heart breaking experiencing but what hurts even more and stings more than a bee is watching all your dreams fade in your eyes as you watch, ignoring the signs on the wall that it is time to move on and do something else or find someone else.

Wallowing in self-pity or looking for sympathy helps no one. Yes you were hurt, you were betrayed, friends turned their backs on you & probably even more hurting instances you are going or went through, it is true and no one will ever refuse that, it is true that it hurts and pains you more than we can ever imagine, it is also true that no one can ever understand or know how it feels because it is you hurting, but, have you ever stopped and think about that person or persons that made you the way you are, giving up on yourself, are doing? Are they also wallowing or did they forge forward and decided to let bygone be bygones.

While you are still there cursing and wishing others are living their dreams.

Come to think of it, in that situation were you the only one who got hurt? Or they too got hurt but they decided not sit around and over analyse the situation and just move on, have you ever stopped to think about that? I know when we are hurt we tend to become a little bit selfish and just think of us and our own part and we wish to turn things to the best of our feelings and interest, and that is what makes our situation to worsen because we do not know how to let go or how to deal with disappointments.

But is giving up the best and only option you have? Is wasting your life away worth it! Really? Is locking yourself in necessary? Is depression the only way out? Is closing yourself out of the world and crying the best solution you can ever come up with? C’mon at least love yourself a little bit, you have only one life - with no rehearsal - to waste it crying over spilt milk.

Yes things happen and we cannot control some of the happenings around us but that does not we mean we should actually stop living, every happening in our lives is bound to teach us a lesson and make us even more stronger, wiser, bolder than we ever were but not to stop us from succeeding and that’s where we miss the point.

When things happen to us the first thing we should ask ourselves is what lesson am I supposed to learn from this but not what do I do to get out of this situation, this is why, when you start thinking of what to do without getting to learn the lessons that are there or know the lesson you are being taught & learn from it, then you are likely to do the same mistake again and probably end up saying you are cursed or be-witched.

Am not saying that you deserved the pain or getting hurt, don’t get me wrong, nobody deserves any kind of hurt or pain even the devil himself, all am trying to tell you is that get past that, move on, you cannot recollect spilt water, neither can you turn back the hands of time, whatever happened, happened and we cannot do anything much about the past but we can do something today that will better  the future and that is by learning the lesson,  forging forward and being more keen before making any decision or allowing people in our lives. Don’t be in haste in any decision making.

Do not let the things you have gone through be the ones to hold you down you deserve better, can a single or double, if you wish triple bad happenings enough to make you give up on your dreams? Seriously! Sorry but that does not even make sense, Are you dreams that meaningless to you? Is your life that worthless that you are ready to give up on it because some two or three things did not work out? Are you ready to give up on the best experiences to come just because you got hurt? C’mon! Don’t you love yourself!

Don’t let what they did to you deprive you of the joy & happiness life brings, don’t let it stop you from becoming and achieving the best in life. Release all that anger you are holding on the inside use that energy to re-structure & organize yourself.

Do you know that our Problems seem so hard and difficult to tackle because of how we see them? Yes! It all depends on how you view them. You can choose to hate all roses because they have thorns or you can choose to appreciate that thorns have roses.

I and other good people may try to talk to you but the final decision will come from within you.  If you choose to make an excuse instead of changing the situation by moving on or choose to see the reason why you can’t instead of how you can, then you won’t! even if you try to go for counselling sessions or for prayers, but if you want to make it out, then the first step to take is to believe you can and begin working towards that and you will. Brush off all negative people and things surrounding you and as I repeatedly say you are who you see and think you are and not what people say or think.  It’s upon you to do it or not do it.

Think of yourself {and the daughter or son you got} and the many things you would want to achieve and start working towards that, it may be easy or hard at first but it is worth the try.

If you want to move on and forge forward & forget the past then do not try to do it! just DO IT!

Truth is you can if you want to and believe that you can.

Be encouraged
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